Yes! You can see it in this video where she does her "mermaid" hair tutorial. Other than this video, I only remember seeing peeks of it in other vids.
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I think she changed Koze to oursundayspot? Well, at least nobody will steal that name from her.
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What does that even mean? Is she only releasing content on Sunday's now? lol
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I think it's for the whole "koze community" thing and looks like she'll be hosting virtual events and stuff on Sundays. Idk I think its sort of cute. It is a shame though that in the end she had to change all of her branding - I checked in on Jaclyn Hill's "be koze" account and it hasn't posted to instagram since early November and has thousands of negative comments. I wonder if she gave up on it due to the backlash.
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I guess I just balk at the idea of it being on the same day/same time every week. If I had wanted to participate in the community, this wouldn't have worked. Sundays are crazy busy for me. IDK, I think she had the right idea before of changing up when the live events were held. But on the other hand, I don't blame her for wanting to make it consistent for her own working life. Maybe she polled and this was the most universally agreeable day/time.leftoverbeans wrote: ↑Fri Jan 06, 2023 10:52 amI think it's for the whole "koze community" thing and looks like she'll be hosting virtual events and stuff on Sundays. Idk I think its sort of cute. It is a shame though that in the end she had to change all of her branding - I checked in on Jaclyn Hill's "be koze" account and it hasn't posted to instagram since early November and has thousands of negative comments. I wonder if she gave up on it due to the backlash.
I agree, the branding change is really unfortunate and I am impressed with how maturely she handled it. I'm not sure I would've been able to let go and move up like she has, so that is nice to see. The lack of acknowledgment or even any activity on Jaclyn's "be koze" account is really disappointing. Not sure what I would've preferred to see, but her just being able to ignore and hide from this mess is too bad.
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Well I have little faith that rebranding is gonna pick up the momentum over there. Honestly I can’t even stick with her anymore. I get life changes but she’s become so night & day different. I used to look so forward to her content but after weeks & weeks of absence she releases content that is so incredibly boring I don’t even bother finishing the video. She appears to be so lackadaisical in her “job” now. I wonder how many subscribers she’s lost? Are there really people that are hanging on her every word while she lectures them on these coffee talks as opposed to her vlogs?
I mean she has a baby I get it but how many of us also have a baby & a regular job we’re still expected to perform at? And have to leave the house & go to an office or whatever? Blah she’s over IMO. Hey is her like this snooze fest her channels become I’m happy for you but I’ve officially dumped her.
I mean she has a baby I get it but how many of us also have a baby & a regular job we’re still expected to perform at? And have to leave the house & go to an office or whatever? Blah she’s over IMO. Hey is her like this snooze fest her channels become I’m happy for you but I’ve officially dumped her.
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DiscoMermaid81 wrote: ↑Tue Jan 31, 2023 1:30 pmWell I have little faith that rebranding is gonna pick up the momentum over there. Honestly I can’t even stick with her anymore. I get life changes but she’s become so night & day different. I used to look so forward to her content but after weeks & weeks of absence she releases content that is so incredibly boring I don’t even bother finishing the video. She appears to be so lackadaisical in her “job” now. I wonder how many subscribers she’s lost? Are there really people that are hanging on her every word while she lectures them on these coffee talks as opposed to her vlogs?
I mean she has a baby I get it but how many of us also have a baby & a regular job we’re still expected to perform at? And have to leave the house & go to an office or whatever? Blah she’s over IMO. Hey if you like this snooze fest her channels become I’m happy for you but I’ve officially dumped her.
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I feel bad that her partner Ryan's mom passed away from cancer. She was a huge help to Kalyn with the baby etc.
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I just watched her video "Dealing with Loss, Change & Not Having All the Answers" and first and foremost - I really am very sorry for their loss, that is awful. Cancer is fucking awful. And Ryan's mom sounds like she was a kind, caring person. I'm glad for Kalyn she took some time off to cherish and process and be present.
That said.
Some things in that video did rub me the wrong way.
* Her saying she "has to figure out mothering alone (now)" - I really don't know what she means by that, and I don't even feel like she knows what she means by that. Nobody gets a guidebook or perfect rolemodel even, or a free babysitter/helping hand. From how she says it, I get the distinct impression she feels really hard done by, and though you can't estimate someone's emotional poverty from the outside, I'm inclined to think she's overestimating her struggle here, which is very typical. She has a stable partner (does he not help?), a nice income to afford help or classes or whatever counselling, presumably she has a small network of friends to talk to - she even says her sister is a mom too and she is close with her. Where is the deficiency? I think what she's meaning to say is that she feels lonely or alone. But that has nothing to do with disadvantaged mothering.
* Her pretty clear indication of calling her own mother a narcissist. I don't understand the value in that apart from self-victimization. Suffering is suffering and it doesn't matter if she realizes whether many others have it worse... I just don't understand the value in her at this stage weaving a thread through her entire YouTube career of indicating her mother is broken. We realize by now. I don't get the value in (over-)sharing that if you're not going to share a true answer to that predicament - unless you're only continuing to name it for a license to stay stuck.
* I am sorry to hear that her recent experiences have permanently changed her - she is right, seeing loved ones suffering and not being able to fix it does change us, and darken us forever. I think it's a missed opportunity - but not a sin - that she didn't stop and allude to a realization that this is reality for the majority of people in the world. I think that's kind of what I always miss with Kalyn. She drops a fairly limited insight but then is just unable to expand it beyond her own moment.
* She mentions she's looking for a nanny/housekeeper (again - privilege unacknowledged) so she can edit more... as others have mentioned, it's a shame she doesn't seem to expand beyond her own little world and realize there are working single moms out there in the world who make it work - not to say that's ideal, that's to say she would do herself a favour to realize a lot of her struggle is only as big as she allows it to be... perhaps if she wasn't caught up on having a picture perfect life, she would manage just fine, but she has the luxury to continue to want that and that taking some work is not a struggle, it's a privilege. Just my opinion on that part.
That said.
Some things in that video did rub me the wrong way.
* Her saying she "has to figure out mothering alone (now)" - I really don't know what she means by that, and I don't even feel like she knows what she means by that. Nobody gets a guidebook or perfect rolemodel even, or a free babysitter/helping hand. From how she says it, I get the distinct impression she feels really hard done by, and though you can't estimate someone's emotional poverty from the outside, I'm inclined to think she's overestimating her struggle here, which is very typical. She has a stable partner (does he not help?), a nice income to afford help or classes or whatever counselling, presumably she has a small network of friends to talk to - she even says her sister is a mom too and she is close with her. Where is the deficiency? I think what she's meaning to say is that she feels lonely or alone. But that has nothing to do with disadvantaged mothering.
* Her pretty clear indication of calling her own mother a narcissist. I don't understand the value in that apart from self-victimization. Suffering is suffering and it doesn't matter if she realizes whether many others have it worse... I just don't understand the value in her at this stage weaving a thread through her entire YouTube career of indicating her mother is broken. We realize by now. I don't get the value in (over-)sharing that if you're not going to share a true answer to that predicament - unless you're only continuing to name it for a license to stay stuck.
* I am sorry to hear that her recent experiences have permanently changed her - she is right, seeing loved ones suffering and not being able to fix it does change us, and darken us forever. I think it's a missed opportunity - but not a sin - that she didn't stop and allude to a realization that this is reality for the majority of people in the world. I think that's kind of what I always miss with Kalyn. She drops a fairly limited insight but then is just unable to expand it beyond her own moment.
* She mentions she's looking for a nanny/housekeeper (again - privilege unacknowledged) so she can edit more... as others have mentioned, it's a shame she doesn't seem to expand beyond her own little world and realize there are working single moms out there in the world who make it work - not to say that's ideal, that's to say she would do herself a favour to realize a lot of her struggle is only as big as she allows it to be... perhaps if she wasn't caught up on having a picture perfect life, she would manage just fine, but she has the luxury to continue to want that and that taking some work is not a struggle, it's a privilege. Just my opinion on that part.
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This is what kills me every time she says something about her and Ryan 'laughing' at comments that call him out. Those comments exist because of how she talks about her life now. Either she has a loving and supportive partner and is lying about having to figure motherhood out alone or she is figuring motherhood out alone and is lying about having a loving and supportive partner. If Ryan really is involved and supportive, then I feel bad for him for the way she talks.DaylightAmy wrote: ↑Sat Mar 11, 2023 9:46 pm* Her saying she "has to figure out mothering alone (now)" - I really don't know what she means by that, and I don't even feel like she knows what she means by that. Nobody gets a guidebook or perfect rolemodel even, or a free babysitter/helping hand. From how she says it, I get the distinct impression she feels really hard done by, and though you can't estimate someone's emotional poverty from the outside, I'm inclined to think she's overestimating her struggle here, which is very typical. She has a stable partner (does he not help?), a nice income to afford help or classes or whatever counselling, presumably she has a small network of friends to talk to - she even says her sister is a mom too and she is close with her. Where is the deficiency? I think what she's meaning to say is that she feels lonely or alone. But that has nothing to do with disadvantaged mothering.
But also, you're exactly right. She's not alone, even without Ryan's help. And has she never heard of daycare? She has had the privilege of taking 6 months off to be almost solely a sahm. If that's what she wants to be now, Great! Good for her! She has the means! She can shut down her youtube and transition her life. But if she wants to return to work, she's not the first mother in the world to have to do that and I'm not sure what she's finding so difficult or confusing about it.
I also find it strange that she believes she got pregnant in order for Ryan's mom to have a few months with her grandchild. She really believes that God or the Universe or whatever flipped her world upside down solely for the benefit of this other person? Come on. She got pregnant because she had unprotected sex.
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I'm watching her "One Week Health Reset Challenge" video now and it's the same thing.
It's a lot of her dramatically pausing about 'finally getting some time for self-care'. Most parents don't at all, for years on end. Most mothers don't have the luxury of working from home at their own pace and schedule. You are not relatable for ooh-ing and aah-ing about being able to be on your home trainer for 20 minutes a day. That's not unusual for a mother who can literally do with her day whatever she wants. It's impossible for most mothers who are not in your privileged position, though.
It's a lot of her dramatically pausing about 'finally getting some time for self-care'. Most parents don't at all, for years on end. Most mothers don't have the luxury of working from home at their own pace and schedule. You are not relatable for ooh-ing and aah-ing about being able to be on your home trainer for 20 minutes a day. That's not unusual for a mother who can literally do with her day whatever she wants. It's impossible for most mothers who are not in your privileged position, though.
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On April 27th she posted to instagram that she has 2 weeks left in her "makeshift maternity leave". Does this mean she's taken a 9 month maternity leave? The baby was born in September. Or do you think she took like a second maternity leave again when Ryan's mom died and now that is coming to an end?
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I just watched her recent Q&A about motherhood and, yet again, she made a comment about asking Ryan to take the baby so she can have a few moments to herself. It really feels like the expectation is that she is the primary caregiver 24/7 unless she specifically asked him to help and he agrees. Which doesn’t seem very equitable and explains a lot about why she feel so lonely and is struggling.
I’m not a mom, so what do I know, but some of the comments on this thread feel super dismissive. Obviously she is incredibly privileged and it would be great if she recognized that, but feeling overwhelmed with trying to manage working and a baby is not an uncommon experience. So many mothers (and parents in general) struggle with that, whether they work from home or not. I’m not always a fan of the things she says or how she frames things, but I’m not exactly sure what some of you want from her. Should she be constantly apologizing for the ways that she’s privileged? She does often add caveats about how lucky she is and she knows that she’s lucky/privileged. What else can she do other than stop making content/sharing her life?
I also think it’s fair for her to mourn the loss of a mother figure in Ryan’s mom. She’s made it clear that she doesn’t have a good relationship with her own mom, and it seems like she really bonded with her mother-in-law. To now feel that she is without a mother figure to learn from must be hard. I have empathy for her. Obviously she has access to resources, her sister is a mother, etc., but there is a different quality to learning about being a mother from your own mother/MIL from what I understand. It’s ok for her to want that and be sad she doesn’t have it.
I’m not a mom, so what do I know, but some of the comments on this thread feel super dismissive. Obviously she is incredibly privileged and it would be great if she recognized that, but feeling overwhelmed with trying to manage working and a baby is not an uncommon experience. So many mothers (and parents in general) struggle with that, whether they work from home or not. I’m not always a fan of the things she says or how she frames things, but I’m not exactly sure what some of you want from her. Should she be constantly apologizing for the ways that she’s privileged? She does often add caveats about how lucky she is and she knows that she’s lucky/privileged. What else can she do other than stop making content/sharing her life?
I also think it’s fair for her to mourn the loss of a mother figure in Ryan’s mom. She’s made it clear that she doesn’t have a good relationship with her own mom, and it seems like she really bonded with her mother-in-law. To now feel that she is without a mother figure to learn from must be hard. I have empathy for her. Obviously she has access to resources, her sister is a mother, etc., but there is a different quality to learning about being a mother from your own mother/MIL from what I understand. It’s ok for her to want that and be sad she doesn’t have it.
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I respect your opinion, but I do want to correct what you think "some of our" expectations are. It's kind of unfair to come in claiming to be reasonable and then immediately put up a straw man argument that we must want her to grovel and apologize constantly for being privileged.sofetchxox wrote: ↑Sat May 13, 2023 3:17 pmI just watched her recent Q&A about motherhood and, yet again, she made a comment about asking Ryan to take the baby so she can have a few moments to herself. It really feels like the expectation is that she is the primary caregiver 24/7 unless she specifically asked him to help and he agrees. Which doesn’t seem very equitable and explains a lot about why she feel so lonely and is struggling.
I’m not a mom, so what do I know, but some of the comments on this thread feel super dismissive. Obviously she is incredibly privileged and it would be great if she recognized that, but feeling overwhelmed with trying to manage working and a baby is not an uncommon experience. So many mothers (and parents in general) struggle with that, whether they work from home or not. I’m not always a fan of the things she says or how she frames things, but I’m not exactly sure what some of you want from her. Should she be constantly apologizing for the ways that she’s privileged? She does often add caveats about how lucky she is and she knows that she’s lucky/privileged. What else can she do other than stop making content/sharing her life?
I also think it’s fair for her to mourn the loss of a mother figure in Ryan’s mom. She’s made it clear that she doesn’t have a good relationship with her own mom, and it seems like she really bonded with her mother-in-law. To now feel that she is without a mother figure to learn from must be hard. I have empathy for her. Obviously she has access to resources, her sister is a mother, etc., but there is a different quality to learning about being a mother from your own mother/MIL from what I understand. It’s ok for her to want that and be sad she doesn’t have it.
My point has only ever been that if she wants to make her brand that she gives others life advice, I think it would be wise of her to show a little more insight into experiences other than her direct own one, which I don't feel she ever does - I feel like when you sit in an ivory tower telling people that when you fall you have to get back up again, you're a whole lot more credible if you don't build that lesson around an example of that time you tripped over the golden leg of your marble bathtub, so to speak - or even look outside your own life and wonder about other struggles than your own and talk about those. She's the one who has started packaging her content as life advice and basically at times life coaching. When she was just vlogging it was something else, in my opinion.
But you're free to disagree. I think with any argument you can find for's and against's and certainly with something as benign as this it's safe to argue either. She can do whatever she wants, and I or others have certainly never said she can only do it if she profusely begs for forgiveness for her privilege, but if anything I think myself and others are trying to express that her 'brand' will only have limited relatability this way (if not alienate a large potential audience), to either people who are in a similar position or people who just feel an affection towards her. If that's enough for her, she doesn't need to step up her game.
The bottom line being not every criticism or expressed annoyance is a demand for something. Sometimes people just have opinions or find approaches jarring and she can take that or leave that however she likes. Nobody's saying she's Satan or needs to be cancelled.
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Just saw this today on her IG. Cannot wait to hear about her firing the nanny, wonder what she did?
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Very dramatic! I was surprised to see her post about it since she's usually a lot more vague about her personal life. I'm not sure if it will be in a vlog or her podcast? I don't really watch her podcast vids too much.
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Wasn't anything crazy, just nanny was really unreliable for her first week. Gave her a second chance and didn't work out so she fired her. Now, she has someone that can't star until September, but can't find anyone time being. So se said she has to postpone her rebranding until then.
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Did I miss something? She posted a story of a picnic with a bunch what was definitely not vegan sushi.
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She was with someone else. It looked like the open container is that person's and hers is all sweet potato and avocado