Mimi comes across as extreme and controlling in her parenting. There is no balance, there is no relaxed attitude, she is just very rigid. "She NEVER has sugar, she NEVER hears no. She only LISTENS to Peppa pig."
It must be hard for her family to see Alexa in a middle of a tantrum, when a human/mother's instinct is to console and help a baby/child, only to be stopped and told - no, don't approach her, she needs to express her feelings. Sure, there are some instances where not paying attention works, especially when they are older, but there are definitely times when a child needs to feel you're there for them.
Mimi's thick brain read something at some point and she interpreted it as "distracting a child from emotions". No Mimi, it is letting a child know you are there and helping them learn to overcome the intense feelings comforted and secure. Especially early on... Mimi said Alexa had "tantrums" at 6 months - to think she would turn away and not tend to her at 6 months sounds so cold hearted.
How horrible it must be for Alexa to experience these "tantrums" only to see her mother turn around and leave, or pull out her phone and film her. Because that's how another adult would want to be treated, right Mimi?
And sometimes kids tantrums are caused by adults. Sometimes kids are overtired because parents were schlepping them on planes, through different time zones, changing their routine and familiar environment.
A lot of Mimi's parenting is not about Alexa's benefit but about Mimi boasting about her parenting. There is a lot of condescending "I'm a better parent than you" attitude. She never acknowledges any mistakes she's made. You can always read the comments under her posts and videos, poor mothers always feeling bad about late potty training (compared to Alexa), "imperfect" diet, occasional screen time... People feel bad about their parenting, put Mimi on a pedestal and that is exactly what she as a narcissist thrives on.
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Oh yeah, like you don't do that every single day Mimi
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She’s been sharing the entire book without the knowledge of copyright. She must be thinking “I’m promoting this for free”. I hope the author sends her a bill for this.blue_cloud17 wrote:Oh yeah, like you don't do that every single day Mimi
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So I watched her parenting Q&A and a lot of the stuff she said she read actually made sense ....should I be worried for myself lol ?
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I agree, I actually don't dislike most of what she said. I just don't like that she acts as though she is so on top of her parenting and that she is as invested in her methods as she claims. I appreciate that she is honest about it being tough, but is she honest enough to say that she isn't consistent? What about Alex? Is he on the same page and does he act in accordance to these methods and work as a team? I get the feeling that Alex steps back from being a parent because he probably can't do everything that Mimi expects.CofeeNgossip wrote:So I watched her parenting Q&A and a lot of the stuff she said she read actually made sense ....should I be worried for myself lol ?
The other thing that I think is a bit wrong is that she never uses the word no. Okay, good, you want to explain why and not just say "no, because I told you so". But what is that going to do to a young mind who has never been told no??? When she is in daycare, in school, with friends, parents of friends? Sometimes the answer is just no and there is no time for explanation. It is also important for Alexa to understand some idea of authority.
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Poor Alexa is a brat in making.
1) About Mimi treating Alexa like a mini adult from day 1 : as a mother you are supposed to lead your child to adulthood, but not think of him/her as an adult when he/she is still a baby. Respect and acknowledging her individuality are a must, but you can’t not be her parent and act like some sort of remote mentor.
2) Never saying no. The worst thing to do. In a world where you don’t get to do whatever you want, when enlever you want, and from the youngest age; children need to be taught how to respect order, law and authority. I understand wanting to let you child feel free in this world, because it is Alexa’s fundamental right as a human being, however, she need to be taught that freedom comes at a cost and that there are indeed boundaries. Poor child is in for a shock when she starts primary school !
Mimi mixes up the word “no” and injustice. Saying “no because” or “no but” works as well, because your child understands the reason why this/that isn’t allowed.
3) Lying about the nanny. She is playing wit the word nanny here, because she indeed never paid for one, but always had her mother in law to babysit Alexa. Saying that she always did “everything on her own when in cane to child care”, “changed every diaper myself” is a flat out lie to her audience and the worst kind of disrespect to her mother in law
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1) About Mimi treating Alexa like a mini adult from day 1 : as a mother you are supposed to lead your child to adulthood, but not think of him/her as an adult when he/she is still a baby. Respect and acknowledging her individuality are a must, but you can’t not be her parent and act like some sort of remote mentor.
2) Never saying no. The worst thing to do. In a world where you don’t get to do whatever you want, when enlever you want, and from the youngest age; children need to be taught how to respect order, law and authority. I understand wanting to let you child feel free in this world, because it is Alexa’s fundamental right as a human being, however, she need to be taught that freedom comes at a cost and that there are indeed boundaries. Poor child is in for a shock when she starts primary school !
Mimi mixes up the word “no” and injustice. Saying “no because” or “no but” works as well, because your child understands the reason why this/that isn’t allowed.
3) Lying about the nanny. She is playing wit the word nanny here, because she indeed never paid for one, but always had her mother in law to babysit Alexa. Saying that she always did “everything on her own when in cane to child care”, “changed every diaper myself” is a flat out lie to her audience and the worst kind of disrespect to her mother in law
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Her principles sound great on the book. However, the problem with Mimi is she doesn’t practise what she preaches and she’s a hypocrite. For example, when they threw Alexa a birthday party. Mimi was showing gift bags she’d prepared for other children and Alexa wanted to open one when it wasn’t for her. Mimi just let her do it and said “it’s okay. I have another one.” As hard as she tries to come across as rigid with her rules, she can’t do it all the time. Alexa should have been told, “No, you can’t open one. That’s for your friend and you already have enough presents for your birthday.”mangowarfare wrote:I agree, I actually don't dislike most of what she said. I just don't like that she acts as though she is so on top of her parenting and that she is as invested in her methods as she claims. I appreciate that she is honest about it being tough, but is she honest enough to say that she isn't consistent? What about Alex? Is he on the same page and does he act in accordance to these methods and work as a team? I get the feeling that Alex steps back from being a parent because he probably can't do everything that Mimi expects.CofeeNgossip wrote:So I watched her parenting Q&A and a lot of the stuff she said she read actually made sense ....should I be worried for myself lol ?
The other thing that I think is a bit wrong is that she never uses the word no. Okay, good, you want to explain why and not just say "no, because I told you so". But what is that going to do to a young mind who has never been told no??? When she is in daycare, in school, with friends, parents of friends? Sometimes the answer is just no and there is no time for explanation. It is also important for Alexa to understand some idea of authority.
I just can’t with the no “No”. Her prestigious Montessori might not say the word to Alexa now but later on in life, she’ll have to hear it. She’s not equipped with the mechanism to cope with that.
Interestingly about using technology, I’ve just watched a documentary on the BBC about children using smartphones or tablets. Surprisingly, they have a better eye and hand coordination than children who don’t. Allowing them to use tablets isn’t all bad news. Of course, like everything else it should be within moderation. My son’s 14 months and picked up a few words from nursery rhymes. Most of us who have to look after our children without help at some point will have to leave them with tablets to do housework. We just have to be in control of what they can see/use. My niece loves to practise maths on her iPad. She’s much above national average in maths and English.
Instead of banning screen time altogether, there are things Mimi should be working on more like don’t let Alexa walk around the beach naked and pose pictures and videos on social media. Her safety doesn’t seem to matter to Mimi in that sense.
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When she said she changed every diaper can be taken as “Alex never does one” too. That man gives me a feeling he’s a distant cold dad who does bare minimum daddy’s duties.ChloeVFA wrote:Poor Alexa is a brat in making.
1) About Mimi treating Alexa like a mini adult from day 1 : as a mother you are supposed to lead your child to adulthood, but not think of him/her as an adult when he/she is still a baby. Respect and acknowledging her individuality are a must, but you can’t not be her parent and act like some sort of remote mentor.
2) Never saying no. The worst thing to do. In a world where you don’t get to do whatever you want, when enlever you want, and from the youngest age; children need to be taught how to respect order, law and authority. I understand wanting to let you child feel free in this world, because it is Alexa’s fundamental right as a human being, however, she need to be taught that freedom comes at a cost and that there are indeed boundaries. Poor child is in for a shock when she starts primary school !
Mimi mixes up the word “no” and injustice. Saying “no because” or “no but” works as well, because your child understands the reason why this/that isn’t allowed.
3) Lying about the nanny. She is playing wit the word nanny here, because she indeed never paid for one, but always had her mother in law to babysit Alexa. Saying that she always did “everything on her own when in cane to child care”, “changed every diaper myself” is a flat out lie to her audience and the worst kind of disrespect to her mother in law
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So what was Natasha’s role/title? Is she the family friend Mimi was referring to when talking about hiring a cleaner and housekeeper?ChloeVFA wrote: 3) Lying about the nanny. She is playing wit the word nanny here, because she indeed never paid for one, but always had her mother in law to babysit Alexa. Saying that she always did “everything on her own when in cane to child care”, “changed every diaper myself” is a flat out lie to her audience and the worst kind of disrespect to her mother in law
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Not just her mother in law. Her own mum has spent months helping care for Alexa.
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I agree, It's ridiculous to focus on screen time so much, something that in this day and age Alexa will be exposed to in school when at the same time, she exploits her on social media. She goes to extremes with everything else, why not put more care into minimizing Alexa's presence on social media? Oh, yeah because it benefits Mimi and brings likes.
She had a full time housekeeper for over a year and we didn't see a glimpse of her even though they live in a very small apartment. Her mother in law was there for months and we hardly saw her. Mimi is very good about hiding things she doesn't want us to see and she could show less of Alexa if she wanted to.
She loves portraying herself as a person who does it all without any help and it's a lie.
It's actually her who should bring some moderation in her own life and limit her own screen time instead of focusing on Alexa's so much. She's projecting her own issues and overcorrecting.
Alexa's brain is not going to fall apart from watching one Peppa pig. She only gets to be a kid once and Mimi is being too rigid, too controlling.
One day she will look back and regret not being more relaxed about parenting.
Alexa will one day be correcting these things with her child and allowing them a cartoon or occasional treat - just like Mimi says she is correcting her parents mistakes.
She had a full time housekeeper for over a year and we didn't see a glimpse of her even though they live in a very small apartment. Her mother in law was there for months and we hardly saw her. Mimi is very good about hiding things she doesn't want us to see and she could show less of Alexa if she wanted to.
She loves portraying herself as a person who does it all without any help and it's a lie.
It's actually her who should bring some moderation in her own life and limit her own screen time instead of focusing on Alexa's so much. She's projecting her own issues and overcorrecting.
Alexa's brain is not going to fall apart from watching one Peppa pig. She only gets to be a kid once and Mimi is being too rigid, too controlling.
One day she will look back and regret not being more relaxed about parenting.
Alexa will one day be correcting these things with her child and allowing them a cartoon or occasional treat - just like Mimi says she is correcting her parents mistakes.
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A few pages back someone posted Alexa took a toy or something in her instastory from another kid and Mimi said no. Now she’s saying she doesn’t say no..
As a parent of a 10 year old, Mimi is in for a rude awakening. When Alexa gets friends and sees how they live and starts wanting the stuff they have, she’s not going to know what to do.
Saying “I can’t let you because...” is not going to work with an older kid. End of story.
As a parent of a 10 year old, Mimi is in for a rude awakening. When Alexa gets friends and sees how they live and starts wanting the stuff they have, she’s not going to know what to do.
Saying “I can’t let you because...” is not going to work with an older kid. End of story.
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What is wrong with saying "we don't do...x,y,z?"
"We don't pull the dog's tail because we aren't assholes"
I'd hope my kid falls into that category with us.
"We don't pull the dog's tail because we aren't assholes"
I'd hope my kid falls into that category with us.
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she's probably be ok if it was "we don't eat gluten (or "glooden," as she'd say) because it's trendy to avoid it"
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Yet another post on celery juice.. so how many more?! It's trending and Mimi has been adding #medicalmedium to her stories... is it to get some traffic directed to her account? Ugh, so repetitive, as always. Let's move on to a new trend Mimi.
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Both Mimi and Alex posted photos of travel books on their insta stories. Like they don't do the same south of France/positano/Miami/LA/NYC routine every year. So much for 'world citizens'.
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Stupid Mimi strikes again. Alexa had a friend over and it looks like the girl’s mum always covers her face when she posts her daughter’s photos on Instagram. But typical dim wit Mimi doesn’t get that. She posted a clip of Alexa and that little girl jumping on the bed on her insta stories. She deleted a story where the girl’s mum tagged her now. Maybe she got a wake up call saying it’s not okay to post someone else’s child’s photos without permission.
But Mimi probably doesn’t care. She’s too busy modelling for her friend Masha. Look what a natural she is. God that invisible heel even when she’s sitting is pure cringe.
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Above average English in action.
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That instagram story about the fake grass car company had me roll my eyes ... first of all, how dumb do you have to be to believe it was real grass? second, it doesn't take a scientist to know fake lawns are NOT eco-friendly. They may save water and reduce chemicals, but it's still plastic that's never gonna biodegrade, plus not ideal for garden animals either.
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Major eye roll.
Off Alex’s story, he comes off as so awk and weird. Ew.
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Mimi’s latest offering. She has high standards? That really made me laugh out laugh. She’s always dressed like a 16 years old - 20 years ago. Sometimes she looks like an escort. Her makeup is stuck in the 90s. Posting what supposed to be a private, business email is so rude and unprofessional. Fine, you’re approached to work with a brand that you don’t want to. Politely say no and move on.
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