I feel bad for saying that and I think we are only saying it because they can't even take care of the three they have. I mean look at the twins they are roughly 5 months old and are sleeping in pack and plays.Why don't those girls have cribs in their own rooms. Those pack and plays can't exactly be the most comfortable sleeping beds. I used a pack and play for my son to play in but he never used it like they do for a bed.z0negirl wrote:I couldn't do the annual family vaca this year because of my work schedule. The in-laws had all three (teen, preteen, and preschooler) during the week and hubby would meet up with them on the weekend. It took a lot of convincing and reassurance by the proverbial village for me to be okay with this as these three are a handful especially when they are with their cousins. Mind you, the rest of the year the village entails just us with maybe a handful of parent-sharing nights.riverain wrote:I have three kids and the ONLY way I can ever see myself going on vacation with my husband by ourselves is if our kids are preteens/teenagers. Because then they'll be able to take care of themselves, as far as leaving my kids at the ages they are now (5,2 and 1 month) no way in hell. we'd rather go on a FAMILY vacation and do something as a FAMILY.montrealgirl2014 wrote:
Perhaps other parents and moms can chime in here but would you ever think of dumping your kids with family and taking a vacation away with your spouse for a few days? See for me I just can't imagine doing that..I would want to bring my son with us..
Judy and Douche have it right, parents do need time away to refresh and enjoy each other. But when you consciously decide to BE a parent, you don't always have that refresh time! Parents also need to sacrifice date nights with JayYonce, hundreds of dollars of food and clothes, and even sleep. J&D rarely make familial sacrifices but they also rely on the help of their village. Now, if you can afford it - why not? They can afford it and they're STILL not shelling out for their well-being of the girls. Let's hope all this glowing, time away helps them not only realize how lucky they are to have that village but they need to DO MORE with their girls. If it means hiring a REAL nanny then so be it.
It's a sad day when complete strangers are telling a couple NOT to have another child.
They are so set on having a guest room when they could have easily put Melody there and set up that office as the girls room.
I agree parents do need time away and I have to admit I am pretty lucky my husband lets me go away for a girls weekend once a year if possible because he tells me I need to hang out with my girl friends but even then I feel guilty about doing it.
For me personally when my husband and I talk about going out I end up rationalizing the whole thing as hey look we have to pay x amount for a babysitter, depending on where we go you might need something new (being a stay at home mom I don't dress up its very casual) and then the cost of dinner its just cheaper to pick up take out and make it family night instead.
I have always put the needs of my son first and fore most that is what we do as parents and just to watch these two is so frustrating...they haven't grab the concept of them being parents and are still thinking of themselves... I think that is why I like Julian and Amy more...yes they are married and its like they are doing all they can before having kids and I think perhaps if Judy and Benji did that first it could very well have been a whole other story
As for that person I looked on instagram and she does have photos of Julianna in the house so perhaps a friend of the family or something? Its just weird and creepy for her to post that and say what she said... at first I thought it was perhaps the mother in law but I can't see that... can't wait to see what the GG PI's uncover
